Six Fundamental Human Needs according to Anthony Robbins
- The driving force behind behaviours and choices
Each day, we fulfil the needs of Certainty, Uncertainty, Significance, Connection, Growth and Contribution. Sometimes our choices are constructive, sometimes neutral and at times, destructive. Awareness of the actions taken in meeting these needs can lead to more balanced and improved strategies for achieving a peaceful and harmonious life.
The first four needs relate to our personality or achievement. Each person will be meeting them in one way or another, even if the behaviour isn’t helpful.
1. Certainty - safety, stability, security, comfort, order, predictability, control, consistency.
The more certainty you need the less you’ll risk. The desire for comfort may be keeping you from achieving your potential. Too little certainty can be stressful.
How do you meet your need for certainty?
2. Uncertainty - variety, surprise, challenge, excitement, difference, chaos, adventure, change, novelty.
You need uncertainty otherwise you’ll get bored. People usually only like the surprises they want. The ones they don’t want they call problems. Most people prioritise certainty the most and that’s why their lives can be unfulfilling or boring.
How do you meet your need for uncertainty?
Are certainty and uncertainty in balance?
3. Significance - important, meaningful, proud, needed, wanted, special, worthy, unique.
People have a variety of strategies to meet their need for significance. Some get this need met with spirituality, others with wealth and status. You can get significance fast with aggression and antisocial behaviour.
Think of a problem you have struggled with for a long time - this is often a way to get this need met. Think of your biggest problem. Ask yourself what would happen if that were resolved. Would it affect your feeling of significance?
How do you meet your need for significance?
4. Connection - love, communication, unified, approval, attachment, intimacy
Are your connections healthy? Are they based on authentic, vulnerable, deep, open hearted sharing? Are there elements of control, manipulation, desperation or competition in your connection? Are you willing to give and receive love? Are you holding back because of fear and past pain?
How do you meet your need for connection?
Are significance and connection in balance? Are you spending too much time gaining significance to nurture your connections? Is the pursuit of connection stopping you from achieving your desired level of significance?
The next two needs are about fulfillment and flourishing.
5. Growth - the need for constant emotional, intellectual and spiritual development
Growth will happen in one way or another, we can only direct and nurture it.
How do you meet your need for growth?
6. Contribution - the need to give beyond ourselves, give, care, protect and serve others.
Ancient wisdom consistently asserts that true, lasting happiness comes from doing good things for others. Once you find your purpose and begin contributing, you can flourish and enjoy the feeling of fulfilment.
How do you meet your need for contribution?
You will be meeting most of these needs in one way or another.
Much of our imbalance and attachment to our physical, mental and emotional problems is because we are suffering from a nearly global human fear…
“I’m not worthy of love. I’m not good enough.”
You are not alone and you will overcome the limiting beliefs, thought patterns and stories that have developed in your mind.
I’m here to help
I am a rational, secular, humanist, personal developer. I am a semi-spiritual, men’s work advocating, feminist, musical, meditative man. I am a work in progress. I tenaciously strive towards my authentic, ideal self, seeing it as a compass point rather than a destination. I compassionately accept the perpetual gap between my actual and ideal self as I appreciate how far I have already travelled. I take opportunities, appreciate my virtues and own my flaws and shadows. I am committed to a deep sense of purpose to create a world of safety by helping people improve their relationships with themselves and others