You already have plenty of habits. I would guess that brushing your teeth and washing your hands are a couple. Maybe some of them are less useful. I used to compulsively eat potato chips while driving.
Once you have uncovered your values and dreamt of your ideal future self, it’s time to recognise and align your habits and behaviours with that version of yourself.
Developing good habits pays self improvement compound interest because the effects multiply over time. Aren’t you glad that your past self developed the habit of tooth-brushing? You are reaping health benefits every day. Which habits do you want to gift to your future self? You can’t do anything about the past but you sure can improve your future!
Some examples of worthwhile habits
* A quality morning routine
* A healthy diet
* Money management
These habits of a successful life, once developed, will last a lifetime. You owe it to your future self to make improvements in these areas.
The problem is that a lot of good habits don’t pay you in the moment, they are investments in the future. The trick here is to pull the long term consequences of your bad habits into the moment so that you feel a bit of pain about it. Next, take action to remove that pain by prioritising the worthwhile habit over any avoidant activity. Finally, pull the future consequences of your good habits into the moment so you have a reason to repeat them.
Each behaviour you choose is like casting a vote for the type of person you want to become. If you cast enough votes, you start to identify as that type of person. Habits provide evidence of your desired identity. They shape your sense of self. They are the engine or avenue through which you learn to believe new things about yourself. It’s not about “fake it til you make it”, you need evidence behind the desired you.
Make things as easy as possible for yourself, set yourself up to succeed, choose achievable habits and celebrate your successes. Make a rewarding game of your achievements by logging them somewhere and maintaining your streak.
Being accountable to someone (like a life coach) is a powerful way of removing unwanted or solidifying a new positive behaviours.
I am a rational, secular, humanist, personal developer. I am a semi-spiritual, men’s work advocating, feminist, musical, meditative man. I am a work in progress. I tenaciously strive towards my authentic, ideal self, seeing it as a compass point rather than a destination. I compassionately accept the perpetual gap between my actual and ideal self as I appreciate how far I have already travelled. I take opportunities, appreciate my virtues and own my flaws and shadows. I am committed to a deep sense of purpose to create a world of safety by helping people improve their relationships with themselves and others