Dreaming up your ideal future
Finding your true north and then setting off towards it is one of the most important investments you can make in yourself. The answers are there within you, it’s just a matter of asking the right questions to tease them out. Below I’ll give you a few tips to get you started. Doing this activity in one, unrestricted sitting will bring the best results.
First, choose a time frame. Too far in the future and it’ll seem to abstract and out of reach. Too close in time and the pressure will be too high. Three to five years out is a good place to start. That’s long enough to get some changes happening, but not too far away so that you might lose motivation.
Next, choose your writing style. Yes, you will need to write things down to solidify and observe your thoughts. The style of writing should be free flowing and uncensored. This is an exercise to get to your core and worrying about spelling and grammar would hinder the process.
Without over-thinking or criticising your writing, dream big! What would your ideal life look and feel like. What if you had no fear and no limits? This is important. We are not setting achievable goals, we are dreaming up our ideal.
It might be helpful to split your dream writing into different categories. These are aspects of human life that are useful to consider and find balance between. They may not all apply to you right now, but write about them anyway even if just for clarity. Allow yourself to interpret them however you need to... After all, it’s your life!
* Home / Physical environment
* Partner / Love / Relationship
* Health / Fitness
* Growth / Learning
* Career / Business / Work
* Money / Finance
* Family / Friends / Social relationships
Once you have ‘brain-stormed’ these areas of life and you are in the flow, it’s time to pull it all together. Still with the same free-flow writing style without censorship or criticism, set a timer and write for 15 minutes solid. Dream big and write about the ideal future you have just imagined. Be ambitious and daring with your dream life. This is your life and your dream, so own it and dream it for you.
Some suggestions from Jordan Peterson’s Self Authoring Suite:
* Who do you want to be?
* What do you want to do?
* Where do you want to end up?
* Why do you want these things?
* How do you plan to achieve your goals?
* When will you put your plans into action?
The final step is to imagine the undesirable future you want to avoid. What would happen if you let your life go down hill and out of control? What if you failed to define and pursue your goals? Write for another 15 minutes to get clarity on what you don’t want your life to look like.
Once you have completed this activity, you will have much deeper insight into your dreams and ambitions. Remember that your ideal future is not a goal in itself. It’s not a place that you would actually reach, but a compass point to aim for. It is the pursuit of valued goals that leads to happiness, not their attainment.
You can use this information to create long term goals, break them down into smaller, achievable parts and create a plan of action to move in that direction.
I’m here to help with this process.
I am a rational, secular, humanist, personal developer. I am a semi-spiritual, men’s work advocating, feminist, musical, meditative man. I am a work in progress. I tenaciously strive towards my authentic, ideal self, seeing it as a compass point rather than a destination. I compassionately accept the perpetual gap between my actual and ideal self as I appreciate how far I have already travelled. I take opportunities, appreciate my virtues and own my flaws and shadows. I am committed to a deep sense of purpose to create a world of safety by helping people improve their relationships with themselves and others